?

Log in

Previous Entry | Next Entry

lunchtime poll

what's the best way to tell someone you don't like them?  my approach seems to get the point across without question, but some(that's you, jessica) would say it makes me seem a bit of a bitch. i think it might be a long list of things, but we'll cover that in a later entry and send it to my counselor...

so let's hear it.  how do you tell someone you don't care what they do or how they do it because they're so miniscule in your big picture without appearing unpleasant?

Comments

( 18 comments — Leave a comment )
cyborgirl
Mar. 10th, 2005 11:19 am (UTC)
I suppose the question would be why you would want to tell someone that, because I don't think that's something you can sugar-coat to the point the person won't realize what you said or not be offended by it.
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:15 am (UTC)
in that case, it was because i was asked. but we talked about all this last night, so i'll let it go... :)
confusedideas
Mar. 10th, 2005 12:04 pm (UTC)
hmmm.......
I agree their is no real nice way to say,"Hey I don't like you." But I guess it is better to know then not know. I think.
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:15 am (UTC)
i think so too. that's usually why i feel it should come up at all. but that's just me.
cupsley
Mar. 10th, 2005 12:13 pm (UTC)
If they really don't matter that much, than what's the point in telling? Is it for you or for them? Or just so that they leave you alone?
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:17 am (UTC)
mostly so they leave me alone, but it makes me feel better to get it off my chest and to not have them asking "why don't you call?"...
radius_squared
Mar. 10th, 2005 01:16 pm (UTC)
When somebody irritates me to that degree it doesn't seem right to go all out and say anything mean to them, I just try to kind of ignore them and hope that they get the hint nicely. Then again, I haven't met anyone that irritates me that much in years, so I'd like to think I'd still keep it civil if the situation came up.
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:18 am (UTC)
i guess that's a good point. i'll look into this civility you speak of... ;)
burning_purple
Mar. 10th, 2005 01:24 pm (UTC)
I'll cover an answer to that in my own journal, as some of the people I don't like are on lj.
But a sentence like that answers itself, doesn't it? I don't tell people things to their faces, at least not at first. It also depends if I have a reason to dislike them or if they just rub me the wrong way.
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:19 am (UTC)
heh, most of the people i don't like are on lj, but we won't go into that here. i live to say things to people's face, but i've been trying to delve into this 'nice' thing people keep talking about. *shrug*
razordance
Mar. 10th, 2005 01:42 pm (UTC)
Unless you are trying to drive them away somehow, say if they are always bugging you or in your face, the best tactic is just ignore them. Erase them from your paradigm. Be civil if confronted, but no-one says you have to be freindly. Eventually they should move along, once they realize you are not receptive to their prescence.
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:20 am (UTC)
see? this civility thing again... must go research...
jennifaery
Mar. 10th, 2005 03:20 pm (UTC)
Perhaps telling them you have to go do something else immediately every time you so them would give them a hint... The 'ignore the asshole' approach has always worked for me :) If they do something that pisses you off regularly and they are unavoidable, tell them what you think... and by the way, I know exactly how you feel.
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:21 am (UTC)
i don't like lies since they always come back around and end up wasting my time. but it's good to know i'm not alone :)
ex_dasboot
Mar. 10th, 2005 04:45 pm (UTC)
Post about it in your blog and hope some one tells them.

/had to be said ;)
pertinacious
Mar. 11th, 2005 09:22 am (UTC)
perfect! i knew i could count on you :)
fierce_pussy
Mar. 15th, 2005 03:52 am (UTC)
how you tell someone you don't like them
It is actually a very fine art...to tell someone you don't like them. It can be fun!
First you have to be aware why it is you feel the need to tell a person that. Then you need to figure out a good time. Timing is importan; it it plays into who the person is that you want to say it to.
For example, it is a casual friend, she/ he makes rude comments once in a while that hurt you.
If it hurts you a lot, tell he/ she right away even in front of people, calmly. If it hurts a little you can tell the person when you catch he/she alone.
Another way is to call he/she or e-mail him/her that you don't like.
Simply walk away when she/he comes close. Ignore them.
My favourite: Flip the bird
...in the end it really doesn't matter if other people perceive you as a bitch...as long as you can get rid of the person!
fierce_pussy
Mar. 15th, 2005 06:48 am (UTC)
and if you don't like someone on lj just delete he/she from your friends list or get a new account/ change username!
( 18 comments — Leave a comment )